For those of you who don’t know I am a mom already to a 16-month-old girl named Aria. And yes, I am aware that I will have two little ones close in age. We chose to have our kids close in age and my husband and I are happy with that choice (but that’s another post in itself).
As I think about being a parent to two kids I become a little overwhelmed. I just finished nannying three times a week watching three kids, two toddlers and a six-month-old, which I think would help prep me for two kids. Also I was a preschool teacher before I was a nanny. So I’ve watched a lot more than three kids at once. I know I have a lot of bases covered because of my experience, however sometimes I still feel inadequate when I think about parenting my own kids.
Let’s be real here being a parent is different than watching/teaching other people’s kids. Seriously I don’t know how I’m going to do it because my life is in shambles most of the time now and I only have one child.
I absolutely LOVE being a mommy, however it’s a huge responsibility. I just want to do right by my girls. And more days than I like to admit I feel like I’m doing everything wrong. Oh motherhood, how you toy with my emotions.
Here are some things I’m hoping to maintain as I begin this new journey…
Spreading the Love
Right now all my attention goes to my sweet Aria. It’s going to be a game changer once her sister arrives. Even though I believe Aria will cope well; I don’t want her to feel like I’m abandoning her for this new girl on the block. I’m hoping at least once a month we can take her on dates, nothing too fancy just something fun and just for her. Letting her know she’s still our baby girl also. I want both my girls to feel the love I have for them.
I’ve dealt with mental health issues in the past. A lot of my upbringing has led to anxiety in a lot of areas, which amplifies sometimes when it comes to my parenting. I can be a helicopter mom and worry about A LOT. It’s not healthy and I try to keep that under wraps. I’ve become better the older Aria gets, but hoping not to spiral back into that once our new Baby Girl arrives.
Date day for my husband and I doesn’t always mean dressing up and getting out the house. We’ve incorporated a certain weekday to just cuddle and watch a show we like, order in Chinese, etc. We make it a priority to make time for each other because it can easily be swept under the rug when kids are involved. I hope to continue that. We also want to start participating in some sort of activity together.
Skincare & Hair Routine
Let’s face it once I became a stay at home mom my hair and skincare routine was not consistent like it use to be. I’m finally back on track. Lately I’ve found a routine that is mommy friendly which means it’s quick and it works for me. I’ve been intentional about my routine more than ever since becoming a mom and noticing those dark circles show no mercy. This thick curly hair is not going to take care of itself. Bummer!
Don’t Forget About Me
It’s easy to forget about yourself once you’re a new mom. I can only imagine how my cup will runneth over with tasks once two kids are in the mix. It took me awhile to start taking care of myself again once Aria came in the picture. I just remember not having the motivation. I was all warped up in mommy mode. I’m hoping to start off earlier with the self-love this time. I just do not want to forget about me.
All in all I hope to remain calm and take care of my family and myself to the best of my ability. I feel completely scared to be honest, but I’m more excited than anything. Pray for me as I embark on this new journey.
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