Once I revealed I was pregnant it was as if I was forced into the membership of a club I didn’t sign up to join. All of sudden mom’s would pull me aside and discuss their pregnancy, advice, and whatever else they deemed appropriate. Brands of baby products are now a second language to me. Oh and “to breastfeed or not to breastfeed” is the topic of discussion at every meeting.
“Don’t pick that brand it causes allergies.”
“That baby carrier is horrible and will cause your baby to have spine issues.”
“How dare you even think about feeding your baby formula, do you know how unhealthy that crap is?”
All of a sudden it seemed like everyone else knew what was best for my child. Everyone but me!
I’m not saying I don’t like advice. I truly welcome it. What I don’t like, is shunning others because they choose one brand over another, or turning your nose up at a non-breastfed kid. I wasn’t breastfed and I turned out just fine… I think.
You would be surprised at how many moms are scaring me with their “mommy stories” in hopes of trying to convince me to join their club. It’s getting to the point where I don’t share things or avoid people because they are ridiculously negative.
“I don’t care if you don’t like my child’s potential name. It’s not your child!”
When did moms or non-moms for that matter become so judgmental? I’m pretty sure my child’s wellbeing has nothing to do with whether I decide to use a pacifier or not.
If you want to make your child’s food from scratch everyday; do it. If you don’t want your child to play with electronics; good for you. But don’t criticize the next mom as if she’s Satan himself because she does things differently. I know I’m a first time mom. I know I am still figuring things out. Heck I know I will make tons of mistakes, but don’t chastise me just yet.
I have absolutely no interest in being involved in the Real Mom’s of (insert your city here). Can we seriously agree to disagree and still respect one another’s opinion?
So to YOU I may be a bad mom. But to me, as long as my child is healthy and happy that’s all that matters. Let’s share our advice in a non-condescending manner people. Lighten up!
All I’m trying to say is don’t judge a mom until you have walked in her leggings.
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